FAMILY LAW IS NOT
HELPING PARENTS SHARE the CARE OF CHILDREN.
AMERICAN EXPERIENCE IS SIMILAR TO IRISH CASES
Regina Nicholson Reports
.I have seen
several family members and friends who live on the
poverty level trying to pay unrealistic child support
payments when their ex-wife should be equally responsible
for the financial care of the child. These men, more
often than not, do not have access to their children due
to manipulative games played by the mother.
Why do women strive so hard to have equal rights, but yet
want to have special privileges too? The court
system makes it easy for a woman to falsely accuse a man
of the crime of "domestic violence" with no
retribution for perjury. This is often a ploy used
in divorce and child custody battles.
Why is a woman automatically believed and a man is not
believed? Many innocent people have been made to
suffer because a "restraining order" was issued
with no investigation by the police or no evidence of
wrongdoing. There are many women who are victims of
domestic violence, but each case should be investigated
before a person is assumed guilty.
I have uncleswho have suffered from the women they
chose. I also have a number of friends who are
excellent fathers who have struggled with the court
system. One of my friends actually won custody of
his daughter, but it was a long, intense, expensive
struggle!
I have contacted several organizations and there are no
support groups for men who suffer from domestic
violence. Needless to say, I gave them an earful,
respectfully of course, about gender discrimination.
An uncle married the same woman twice who tried
to kill him twice. He is smaller than her and she
would beat him up all the time.
He remarried her because the children wanted their
parents back together. We excommunicated her from
the
family and told her she was no longer welcome at our
homes. So, at family gatherings, he would attend
with his two children. We told him he was crazy for
taking her back and asked him how does he sleep at night
lying next to a person who tried to kill him? He
needed help also for wanting to be in a dysfunctional
relationship. When he (a soldier) left for Desert
Storm, she didn't pay the bills.
He came home only to find the bank had foreclosed on his
house.
Another uncle is going through a divorce which started
two years ago and it is still not final! The good
news, he does get to see his daughter on a regular
basis. The bad news, he is broke and tired from the
court fights!
The last uncle story...He is paying child support to two
ex-wives. One uses his child support to pay her car
payment. She has remarried and moved away from the
area. He only gets his son in the summer. His
other child, a twelve year old daughter, is not in his
life even though she only lives 8 miles away. Her
mother will not allow him to see her because she is still
upset over him ending the relationship. She has
also remarried. He pays her around $700 a
month. He works overtime and has a lawn service to
make ends meet.
I know it is because they chose the wrong women, but the
courts are so biased in the woman's favor. If I was
a man, I don't think I would get married! Not all
women are vicious, but I'm beginning to think at least
80% of them are spiteful and I'm a woman! Women
need to realize, "Okay, the relationship
ended. I might not like him anymore but the
children have nothing to do with our
relationship." Some women think they had a
"Virgin" birth without help from the father!
Why are feminists so eager to come to the aid of of bad
mothers but fail to rally around a good father?
Children need contact with both of their parents.
It is so important for their well-being!
By Regina Nicholson; from Mike Ramey manhoodline@yahoo.com
..Ireland, where the story is the
same and the lawyers are charging inordinate sums of
money; to achieve for men merely a shared guardianship of
their children, while expected to pay huge sums for the
child's upkeep and if necessary, keep the mother in
taxi-cab fares. A history best illustrated by the
following pictures taken by Pierre Brunet, while visiting
Dublin this year.
("pro bono" or you too and the virgin blues.)
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